The Billy Memorial

Listen more often to things than to beings
'Tis the ancestors' breath when the fire’s voice is heard
'Tis the ancestors' breath in the voice of the water
- Birago Diop

Billy Gatherings are so ‘present tense.’ We gather, we leave, ebb and flow. Over time, it’s inevitable that our memories of Billys now gone have begun to fade. We forget a name, but remember a face; remember a moment but forget what he looked like. We grieve a loss, but then he becomes history. The combined impact and rapidity of our losses from AIDS at the height of the epidemic was devastating. Even so, the loss of any Billy is a blow to our community.

One way to keep the spirit alive of Billys now gone is in this Memorial Page. We’re a group with a rich history, filled with great personalities of every sort. Even as we evolve together, we don’t want to lose what’s come before. Here, we honor all Billys, those lost to the epidemic or in other ways. And we honor ourselves by keeping our hearts open to what has come before. And for those who have yet to find us, here are the names and faces of those who will be your history one day.

We want to thank so many for their support in putting this together.  To name just a few, Mark Weigle, Marcus Borgman, Bill Blackburn, Joe Arcangelini, Terry Brown, Charlie Seltzer, Paul Mueller and the Board, and Mugwort of RadFae.org (many men moved between Billy and Faerie circles).  We have worked together as a single unit creating this page and collecting the material for it, and it’s been an honor to have added to the many memorial activities (Mark Weigle’s panel project for example or Joe A’s photo albums) that have happened over the years. 

Collecting information for events that have happened, in some instances, over twenty years ago means that there are likely errors and omissions. Please write David at  if you have any additions, corrections, updates or pictures. You’ll find an Archive Page that lists everyone. Click on a name and you’ll be taken to an individual’s page. If you encounter a "flower" symbol, this indicates that either the information is incomplete or missing. 

As Beautiful Dove used to say,
Roses from our hearts to yours,

Chris Lombardi and David Grossblat

August, 2016


butterfly billy

For Billys Who We No Longer Remember

Brian White

ARRIVED  May 23, 1960
DEPARTED  June 11, 2014

Don Cate

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  ...  

Kelly
attended the Manchester Gathering

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  ...  

Anderson, Christopher Tate
Gryphon Blackswan

ARRIVED  April 19, 1951
DEPARTED  April 18, 1996

Armstrong, William Donald

ARRIVED  May 30, 1939
DEPARTED  March 8, 2015

Baker, David
Beautiful Dove

ARRIVED  February 18, 1947
DEPARTED  February 20, 2002

Balchalk, Robert
Bobby

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  ...  

Barnes, Gene
Portia Manson

ARRIVED  October 1, 1964
DEPARTED  October 9, 1995

Barrett, Jason

ARRIVED  November 8, 1954
DEPARTED  September 6, 1994

Batten, Will
Wilma

ARRIVED  April 28, 1954
DEPARTED  March 25, 1991

Battershill, Jim

ARRIVED  June 25, 1943
DEPARTED  February 19, 1995

Bell, Jeremy

ARRIVED  1948  
DEPARTED  1989  

Bennett, Richard

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  1999  

Bense, Buzz/Bernhard
Gabriel

ARRIVED  January 23, 1949
DEPARTED  November 19, 2016

Benson, Tom

ARRIVED  February 11, 1947
DEPARTED  May 12, 2014

Beyer, Richard Drummond

ARRIVED  July 23, 1934
DEPARTED  May 15, 1995

Boynton, Lee

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  2000  

Branum, Jackson

ARRIVED  January 13, 1952
DEPARTED  May 18, 2003

Brent, Bill

ARRIVED  July 17, 1960
DEPARTED  August 18, 2012

Burnside, John

ARRIVED  November 12, 1916
DEPARTED  September 14, 2008

Cason, Marshall

ARRIVED  September 19, 1949
DEPARTED  1995  

Charlesworth, Jim

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  2014  

Charlip, Remy

ARRIVED  January 10, 1929
DEPARTED  August 14, 2012

Chilton, Rodney

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  July 23, 2016

Christensen, Tom

ARRIVED  December 18, 1957
DEPARTED  April 22, 2003

Church, Jok

ARRIVED  November 28, 1949
DEPARTED  April 29, 2016

Colella, Bob

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  1999  

Connolly, Paul

ARRIVED  May 1, 1962
DEPARTED  March 29, 2017

Conrad, Bob
Goat

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  2014  

Crandall, Vern Ray Thaddeus
Tad

ARRIVED  July 9, 1967
DEPARTED  September 7, 2011

Cwiakala, John

ARRIVED  May 2, 1952
DEPARTED  September 16, 2012

DeBeni, Doug

ARRIVED  February 5, 1957
DEPARTED  September 22, 1994

DeMara, Nicholas
Nick

ARRIVED  June 6, 1945
DEPARTED  October 5, 2018

Dennett, Ron

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  1991  

Deskins, Daniel Raymond
Brother Daniel Mary Magdalene

ARRIVED  May 28, 1958
DEPARTED  July 22, 1996

Devall, Bill

ARRIVED  December 2, 1938
DEPARTED  June 26, 2009

Diaman, Nikos

ARRIVED  November 1, 1936
DEPARTED  November 8, 2020

Dubbs, Greg

ARRIVED  November 8, 1952
DEPARTED  June 11, 1998

Fallas, Steve

ARRIVED  December 8, 1957
DEPARTED  April 8, 2001

Fasic, Robert
Bob

ARRIVED  April 10, 1940
DEPARTED  October 2, 2016

Feld, Rick

ARRIVED  May 26, 1945
DEPARTED  December 4, 1995

Frary, Steve

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  ...  

Freedman, Paul

ARRIVED  January 31  
DEPARTED  August 4, 2020

Friedman, Brian

ARRIVED  March 20, 1955
DEPARTED  July 18, 2010

Fugelsang, Bill

ARRIVED  March 4, 1958
DEPARTED  August 29, 2002

Golden, Mitch

ARRIVED  February 4, 1951
DEPARTED  October 12, 2001

Grant, Preston

ARRIVED  March 5, 1960
DEPARTED  May 25, 2017

Grant, Will

ARRIVED  May 20, 1947
DEPARTED  2014  

Greenman, Nymphaea

ARRIVED  November 7, 1952
DEPARTED  February 13, 1995

Guedon , John
Fabu

ARRIVED  October 3, 1961  
DEPARTED  July 21, 2020

Haley, Brian

ARRIVED  April 13, 1956
DEPARTED  August 18, 2017

Hall, Peter

ARRIVED  June 21, 1936
DEPARTED  August 4, 2021

Halpern, Dan

ARRIVED  February 18  
DEPARTED  1995

Hanna, Mike

ARRIVED  1947  
DEPARTED  January 11, 2006

Hathaway, Michael

ARRIVED  November 11, 1941
DEPARTED  January 2, 2019

Hayes, Stephen
Redwood

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  1999  

Hershy, Ben

ARRIVED  July 17, 1958
DEPARTED  December 24, 1999

Holick, John

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  1994  

Huddleston, Michael

ARRIVED  June 29, 1951
DEPARTED  April 22, 1992

Hughson, Jim

ARRIVED  June 19, 1944
DEPARTED  December 11, 2012

Hunter, Alan

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  December 18, 2011

Johnson, Darrel

ARRIVED  October 21, 1942
DEPARTED  September 7, 2014

Johnson, Steve

ARRIVED  December 8, 1960
DEPARTED  May 10, 2015

Jones, Christopher Colorado

ARRIVED  January 12, 1949
DEPARTED  June 29, 2019

Jones, Davey

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  1996  

Jones, Martin

ARRIVED  March 28, 1943
DEPARTED  June 11, 2018

Joseph, Leo
Brother Leo

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  ...  

Kitchen, Guy

ARRIVED  December 17, 1961
DEPARTED  December 29, 1998

Klehm, Brook

ARRIVED  November 13, 1956
DEPARTED  October 27, 2010

Kramer, Jim

ARRIVED  1941  
DEPARTED  September 4, 2021

Kukulka, Joe

ARRIVED  September 17, 1950
DEPARTED  January 26, 2018

Lagasse, Maurice Lee

ARRIVED  April 14, 1954
DEPARTED  February 22, 1993

Lee, Eddie

ARRIVED  October 4, 1952
DEPARTED  February 28, 1996

Liebman, Marty

ARRIVED  November 28, 1942
DEPARTED  April 20, 2001

Locke, Richard
Butterfly

ARRIVED  June 11, 1941
DEPARTED  September 25, 1996

Lovato, Vincent

ARRIVED  November 24, 1954
DEPARTED  August 16, 1994

Lowe, Sanford
Sandy

ARRIVED  October 27, 1935
DEPARTED  March 21, 2005

Lowen, Lanz

ARRIVED  February 5, 1953
DEPARTED  March 22, 2019

Mapp, Tom
Shine

ARRIVED  August 28, 1947
DEPARTED  February 18, 1995

Massa, Enrique
Quique

ARRIVED  June 30, 1960
DEPARTED  September 29, 2017

Matson, Gary

ARRIVED  July 6, 1949
DEPARTED  July 1, 1999

McBride, Don

ARRIVED  1953  
DEPARTED  1993  

McKay, David

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  1993  

Mehall, Steve

ARRIVED  July 31, 1959
DEPARTED  August 12, 1996

Minns, Carl
Carl Lasagna

ARRIVED  June 26, 1963
DEPARTED  March 3, 2015

Moran, Michael

ARRIVED  November 29, 1950
DEPARTED  March 5, 2003

Mowder, Winfield Scott

ARRIVED  May 30, 1959
DEPARTED  July 1, 1999

Murphy, Doug

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  October 4, 1995

O'Connell, Stephen

ARRIVED  January 30, 1951
DEPARTED  October 8, 2016

Paskewitz, Bill

ARRIVED  August 5, 1953
DEPARTED  November 20, 2014

Passmore, David

ARRIVED  October 29, 1932
DEPARTED  November 29, 2017

Patrick, David

ARRIVED  April 16, 1952
DEPARTED  September 9, 2001

Pearson, Louis

ARRIVED  1954  
DEPARTED  May 2, 1998

Pilling, Jack

ARRIVED  1935  
DEPARTED  November 28, 2013

Ploe, Richard
Riku

ARRIVED  November 15, 1945
DEPARTED  December 9, 2018

Pregil, Paul
Data Bear

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  1996  

Priebe, Bruce

ARRIVED  December 18, 1951
DEPARTED  May 21, 1994

Rath, Richard

ARRIVED  May 15, 1954
DEPARTED  June 16, 1996

Redding, Michael

ARRIVED  October 23, 1948
DEPARTED  September 2, 2002

Robinson, Alfred

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  May 1, 2005

Ross, Danny

ARRIVED  June 17, 1945
DEPARTED  January 3, 1996

Rubin, Danny

ARRIVED  September 30, 1960
DEPARTED  January 13, 2020

Russell, Wesley
Wessie

ARRIVED  June 14, 1929
DEPARTED  October 24, 2008

Schmidt, Joshua

ARRIVED  May 29, 1963
DEPARTED  March 28, 1996

Schultz, Greg

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  1991  

Schwartz, Paul

ARRIVED  July 4, 1966
DEPARTED  January 27, 2006

Scofield, Stewart

ARRIVED  March 26, 1948
DEPARTED  April 19, 2008

Simmons, Matthew
Peggy L'eggs

ARRIVED  April 28, 1960
DEPARTED  September 8, 2020

Sommers, Michael
Honeydew

ARRIVED  August 1, 1950
DEPARTED  July 16, 1995

Spellman, Pratt

ARRIVED  1903  
DEPARTED  May 28, 2000

Spencer, Bobby

ARRIVED  February 18  
DEPARTED  January 3, 2017  

Steele, Al
from the earliest Gatherings

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  ...  

Stewart, David
Light Eagle

ARRIVED  February 24, 1964
DEPARTED  October 2, 1999

Stewart, William

ARRIVED  May 25, 1951
DEPARTED  October 20, 2021

Storch, Kim
Raven

ARRIVED  July 18, 1949
DEPARTED  May 28, 2000

Stotts, Keith

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  ...  

Tadros, Jon
Timegiver

ARRIVED  February 14, 1966
DEPARTED  February 6, 2012

Taliesin,
Taliesin

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  1993  

The Cook, Kent

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  ...  

Thompsen, Jack

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  ...  

Thompson, Bruce

ARRIVED  September 15, 1966
DEPARTED  December 5, 2018

Tomlinson, Chris

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  ...  

Vargas, Bob

ARRIVED  July 3, 1954
DEPARTED  January 25, 1997

von Braun, Hans

ARRIVED  April 1944  
DEPARTED  February 13, 2005

Ward, Stan

ARRIVED  ...  
DEPARTED  December 13, 1992

Wiggin, Ronald Toby
Toby

ARRIVED  July 27, 1960  
DEPARTED  August 16, 2019  

Williams, Wade

ARRIVED  January 19, 1953
DEPARTED  July 18, 1996

Wolff, Arthur
Buzz

ARRIVED  March 12, 1948
DEPARTED  May 18, 1993